There comes a huge moment of clarity and understanding when you realize a simple thing about broken relationships: she can’t “steal” him from you if he didn’t want to leave in the first place.
Before, sometime in March; after, this week. It may not be the greatest body transformation of all time, but it’s progress, and it’s significant to me. This year has been wild. I was the happiest I had ever been, got heartbroken, went from happy to sad, confused each day how to feel. But I woke up one day during my spring semester and realized all that I had. My friends, who stood up for me through everything; my family, who was always just a phone call away; and my health, something I had to improve. I had to change and be better for me (and your own improvement is the greatest form of revenge). I hope that by me posting this picture, that in all sincerity it is not taken as a plea for attention or to show off my body in a suggestive way. Rather by posting this, I hope people understand it hasn’t been easy and the decision to make a photo like this public was incredibly difficult for me. The journey towards health is constant. It is not over.
Unfortunately as of late, my workout regime has been nonexistent. Coming home for about a month before leaving for Rome left me with no gym membership, surrounding myself with people who’d rather eat than run. That has been difficult and that is my climb right now. But since I haven’t been able to hit the gym everyday, I’ve been watching what I eat, making portions smaller and cutting out all dairy, bread, and junk food. That alone has helped me not fall back into a bad place with my body.
I am not a health and fitness blogger. I am not a “fit girl” on instagram. I am me and this is my progress. I am proud and I am motivated.
And I am happy.
Abi Basch, a former teacher at my alma mater, Sacred Heart Cathedral Preparatory in San Francisco, announced her resignation. For more detailed information on the cause, read this article.
I never had the chance to be a student of Ms. Basch’s, but she accompanied me on my school trip to Washington D.C. my senior year. Although we didn’t create a significant bond over those 6 days, I could tell she was an intelligent, strong, and passionate leader. Her choice to resign in the face of discrimination in our community is commendable. Yes, I went to a Catholic high school. But what made my high school so great was how inclusive it was. The student body was so diverse; students of different races and sexualities and religious affiliations. And so was our faculty. Archbishop Cordileone has been the center of much controversy over his proposal that teachers working for the archdiocese would be referred to as “ministers” and held to strict moral standards in their personal lives that would abide by the church’s rules. Ms. Basch, among others won’t stand for that. And it is not because they are all against the church, or have no morals, or are all sinners.
I am proud to see people in my high school community making a stand against such absurd proposals. Discrimination and exclusivity do not belong in the hallways of Sacred Heart Cathedral Prep or any other Catholic high in San Francisco, and beyond. We accept and love all. Best of luck to Ms. Basch on her future endeavors.
Kassandra Ferrante // Class of 2013
Update (August 12, 2015): It has come to my attention that this post and my message was not clear. I LOVE the community I was raised in. I’ve been a student to Catholic education in San Francisco for 14 years. I was born and raised Catholic. And though my relationship with the church isn’t “perfect” by biblical standards, I am proud to have come from such an inclusive and loving community. I happen to disagree with the moral code that Archbishop Cordileone has suggested, but by no means am I putting down the Catholic Church for its teaching. I think there is work that needs to be done to progress with the world, but I understand and respect the teachings of the church. I know that I, nor anyone can change them. This was solely an opinion piece about how strongly I feel towards this proposal, and I am not alone. Follow the movement. #TeachAcceptance
The CNN alert on my phone didn’t really get a reaction out of me. I was in the middle of something, and read over the headline quickly. “3 dead in Louisiana theater shooting”, it read. But no, I didn’t really give a reaction. We are numb to this news. We aren’t surprised when we turn on the news and the headline is about a shooter, how many victims dead, mental illness, gun control; it never stops. When is enough, enough?
Tonight, 3 are dead and 7 injured at a movie theater in Lafayette, Louisiana. The shooter, a 58 year old white man, a patron of the theater he attacked, is dead due to a self-inflicted gun shot wound.
There isn’t much for me to say on the topic. I am disgusted that this is the world we live in. The rest of the world must look down on us for how pathetic we are at handling our own massive problem. But no words are enough. No solution will be implemented. This is the norm.
Rest in peace to the victims of the shooting tonight. My thoughts and prayers are with everyone affected by this tragedy in Lafayette, Louisiana.